Since breaking the story a few days ago on Chris Bosh's child support woes and custody drama (See Chris Bosh Deadbeat Dilemna I've received much flack for quote on quote "siding" with Bosh's ex-girlfriend based on what I presume to be my reporting on the facts as filed by Mathis (Bosh's ex-girlfriend) in a Maryland court.
"In her (Allison Mathis) suit she claims Bosh went from being a lovable fiancée with plans of matrimony and fatherhood to a cruel, indifferent "deadbeat" father and socially irresponsible athlete who upon his return from Olympic gold in Beijing broke off the relationship, leaving his child's mother 7 months pregnant without financial support even after suffering from complications that forced an emergency C-section this past November."
"All that said, how can a family oriented man with a charity for children dedicated to teaching children how to read potentially expose his 4 month old daughter to a life of borderline poverty where her mother is working two jobs, "robbing Peter to pay Paul" to keep food on the table and the utilities on because of a soured relationship with her mother? Apparently with the same ease to attempt to have Mathis removed from the $1.6 million dollar Texas home they jointly owned and to petition a paternity test. Yes, Bosh with a 99.97% accuracy, you ARE the father and yes, there are two sides to every story."
It is warranted given that men tend to side with men so of course it is assumed that because I'm a female writer, my sympathies lie solely with the child's mother and my intentions are to throw Chris Bosh's dignity and reputation to the wolves. It is this assumption that is the basis for making my unbiased stance on this story crystal clear.
As a child of a deadbeat dad for a portion of my childhood and all of my adult life this ill conceived notion of a bitter, male bashing woman scorned would seem credible if I also weren't the aunt of a beautiful 2 year old girl who's father is a working college student sharing custody with a foul mouthed, undereducated mother holding onto a relationship that never was, resentful that it will never be and too proud to admit the need to better herself. If I didn't see the joy in her face when she visits me and my family and hear pain in her cries when her father and grandmother drop her off to her mother, I'd take a picture with my pearly whites beaming as a sign proudly named me as a Chris Bosh basher to millions of viewers. As Litall so affectionately proclaims, I digress!
I live both sides of the story every day. I know no one side without knowing the other. Upon my failed attempt to reach Chris Bosh for comment via Twitter to tell his side of the story, I was able to find this tidbit shedding a light on Bosh's side of the story through my new friend over at Khandor's Sports Blog
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As reported by Michael Grange at Globeandmail.com
Bosh made first move in court, lawyer says
Toronto Raptors star Chris Bosh began legal proceedings in October to support his then-unborn daughter, according to a Dallas lawyer.
On Oct. 3, 2008, six weeks after he split with the baby's mother, Allison Mathis, Bosh filed a petition in a Dallas court to begin arranging custody and financial support of the child. In the event Bosh and Mathis could not come to a written agreement, the petition asked the court "to make orders for support of the child" and "provide for appropriate access to the child for both parties."
When subsequent testing confirmed his paternity, Bosh filed an amendment to his original petition on Jan. 30, again requesting an order to cover off care, custody and support for their daughter in the absence of a mutual agreement.
By then, Trinity Myers Bosh had been born.
According to Bosh's lawyer, Larry Hance, the filings demonstrate the four-time NBA all-star had no intention of acting like a deadbeat dad, as he's been portrayed by various media outlets since a Toronto newspaper first reported Tuesday that Mathis had filed suit against him in a Maryland court.
Rather, he has attempted to establish his parental rights and responsibilities, not run from them.
"The dispute is about what amount of money should that support be," Hance said. "Should it be some amount that meets the needs of the child or should it be something more?
"I can say, from his position, he has been willing to pay a reasonable and generous amount to more than cover the needs of the child."
"I just wanted to get everything sorted out, that's all I can say," Bosh said after the Raptors' 115-106 win over the Milwaukee Bucks. "I took the initiative because I know how things are. I didn't want any complications."
I commend Chris Bosh for embracing his God given rights and attempting to take an active role in his child's life. Not all men and not all male athletes are deadbeats. However, I make no apologies for my previous reporting on Chris Bosh's dilemna. He could easily get caught up in the vindictiveness, resentment, anger and bitterness involved when a relationship goes sour and the well-fare of a child is involved. Even essentially responsible, reliable, well-mannered men like Bosh aren't exempt from making mistakes. Whether it was simply the child's mother lying out of spite or heaven forbid to boost her fledging acting career, it is possible that any portion of her accusations could ring true. Regardless, it is his and any man's responsibility to God, to the child and to society to "man up" and take care of his seed. It is an honor and a blessing that any parent, FATHER OR MOTHER should accept wholeheartedly WITHOUT seeking any recognition or Parent of the Year Award.
As I said before, at the end of the day, fans will forgive, the endorsements will continue to roll in and the Raptors' will redeem their playoff contentions next season IT'S NOT ABOUT MATHIS OR BOSH but that innocent little girl who like my niece, didn't ask to be born but deserves all the love, nurturing and values two parents working toward the common goal of raising a productive member of society can bring. The same qualities Bosh and Mathis can bring their daughter working together.
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